Let’s face it we all have bad habits and sometimes those habits can hold us back. I’m not talking about stuffing your face with chocolate in a corner when no one is looking. Really, I’m talking about the habits that turn people off and sabotage you from getting to where you want to be. You know, those habits that leave you wondering “where did all my friends go?” Today’s post is addressing the tough stuff that no one tells you but really should. Hopefully, by the end, you will recognize these habits and start making changes.
On your journey to achieving an amazing lifestyle, your bad habits can hold you back from success. Most times, people don’t even realize their actions can be self-sabotaging. This later leads people to constantly making poor choices and wondering why they are not successful yet. Recognizing your bad habits and changing them are key to reaching your goals.
Bad Habit #1: Having a Bad Attitude
Some people see the glass as half empty. The world is constantly in a negative state for them and they don’t mind dragging you down with them. They breathe a hot firey breath of disgust and disappointment with everything around them. They just don’t give a F*#$ and don’t mind if they bring you down with them. If you are one these people who carry a bad attitude, it’s time to wake up. Your bad attitude can turn others off very quickly and once turned off it’s a hard and long journey back to on. You don’t have to be rainbows and butterflies all the time, but you should be pleasant to be around. Let people know you care about something and that you’re not a dragon ready to scorch a local village.
Bad Habit #2: Poor Social Skills
Sure not all jobs require socializing but many do. Nowadays there are many people who are socially awkward. They are hard to talk to and even harder to engage with. Look, you don’t have to throw a slumber party, but you do have to communicate with people to get your needs met. Even introverts need to have social skills to get where they want to be.
Bad Habit #3: You’re Inconsistent
Inconsistency is the biggest momentum and growth killer there is around. It happens to everyone, it starts when you are on the roll and then all of a sudden you’re not. Consistency is key in keeping good things going. Even in moments where you are facing your biggest obstacles, you cannot forget about your dreams. It is in those very moments when that dream is tested. People who are inconsistent are difficult to read. Those who are difficult to read are difficult to build trust with.
Bad Habit #4: Your Voicemail Box is Full
This is a huge pet peeve for anyone who is trying to get into contact with you. Many people want to get into contact with you, and if they have a message they want to leave but can’t, they won’t. Having a full voicemail box isn’t an indication that you’re busy, its an indication that you don’t follow up. It also shows that you don’t care enough to check on people may want from you. All in all, it communicates a bad message!
Bad Habit #5: You Don’t Return Phone Calls
This coincides with Habit #4. Truthfully when you don’t return calls or emails, and your voicemail box it full, you appear disconnected. People want to connect with someone who is available and engaged. If you are unable to answer for the little things, how will you be prepared to answer for the big things? The short answer is you won’t be. You would be surprised how far reciprocation will take you.
Bad Habit #6: You Lack Empathy
Let’s face it, being able to step into another person’s shoes is a huge deal. This is the one thing that connects you to other people. Not being able to connect with others will make you seem cold and frigid. Plus, you need to be able to lean in order to accomplish your dreams. Having empathy shows that you are able to listen and hear. It shows that you can be in the moment and stick it out through the tough stuff. If you don’t have those skills others won’t want to be around you and eventually leave you on your own. It’s much easier to achieve as a tribe than by your lonesome.
Bad Habit #7: Seem Jaded
True words, hurt people hurt people. When you are jaded you take fewer risks and sometimes may be too cautious. You tend to appear tired, unenthusiastic, and bored. You should always be hungry for your goals. If you don’t show the interest then no one will understand your passion.
Bad Habit #8: You Are Not Humble
We all have standards and as we get older those standards rise. We all start somewhere as well and for most people, it’s not on top. Sometimes it’s important to recognize exactly where you stand. Those who are not humble appear full of themselves and turn off others. People who are not humble tend to take very important things for granted. You don’t want to lose the very things that drive you towards your goal, so remember to have a slice of humble pie.
Bad Habit #9: Being the Gossip Queen
Look we all want to know the juicy news around the office and in social circle. Sometimes, we fail to realize how that very news will affect others and even yourself. There is a saying that goes “those who gossip with you, will gossip about you.” Meaning people will tell any news if it juicy enough and being a friend doesn’t matter. Those who gossip are seen as untrustworthy and a trouble maker. Plus no one wants to be vulnerable with you if they may end up at the butt of your next joke. So chill out with gossip and stay away from the little birdies in the office.
Bad Habit #10: You are Not Accountable
Accountability is one of the hardest things to accept in today’s world. It’s hard to accept complete responsibility for who you are and what you do. However, those who fail to have accountability fail to truly reach their goals. If you cannot take responsibility for short comings, you cannot learn from them. Those who don’t learn from their mistakes have a tendency to repeat them. Plus when you are accountable for your mistakes, others tend to view you and irresponsible and careless. No matter what, you have to own who you are and what you do, flaws and all. When you are able to be fully accountable people trust you.
The journey to your goals is a rough one. You want to be on your A game, and sometimes that takes recognizing your bad habits. What are you bad habits? Drop a line in the comment below and let us know what you are working on changing!
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