Twas the day before Christmas, and I am ready to share my gift with you. This year I am doing Christmas a little different. Instead of gifts and elaborate travel plans, I am just focusing on what is most important to me. The top four most important things in my life are Love, Laughter, Life, and Learning. So my gift to you is simple this year, I am sharing how to focus on those for things and how to carry that into the new year.
So last year, Christmas was a bit of a sh!t show for me. It was overwhelming, joyous, frustrating, and several mixes of emotions. And while I enjoy my time with my families, I found myself in a conundrum about how to establish my life as a wife. In an effort to never experience that kind of holiday battle again, I made the choice to do something different. This year my husband and I and focusing less on the holiday and more on our needs. In focusing on what is important to us, we create our own Christmas traditions and boy is it glorious. Too often people forget that the holidays are not about what is supposed to happen, and more about love, laughter, life, and learning. So here is how you focus on these things and carry them into the new year.
Gift 1: Focusing on Love
My supports are huge in my life. They go out of their way to make me feel extra special and support me in the toughest of times. Everyone needs support in their lives. We are social species, so love, support, and connection are very important to us humans. When you are spending time during the holidays remember those you love and enjoy that time you have together. Invest in the communication and share those moments with each other. Also, invest in the love for yourself. You are missing out on the greatest love of your life if you are not in love with every inch of you.
In the new year make it a priority to tighten up your tribe. The people you surround yourself with is a reflection of you in the sense that they influence your thought process and beliefs. Focus on sharing your loves with your tribe and deepen your connections. Self-love is the foundation of lasting loving relationships. Establish new beliefs about you and who you are.
Gift 2: Finding more Laughter
It’s true that laughter is the best medicine. I find when I laugh with people, even if I am not fond of them, I can get through some tough moments. Laughter somehow makes everything better. You should find more reasons to laugh and smile and play while you’re at it. You don’t have to take life so seriously, you can have fun moments. For the holidays, be sure to laugh whether you are watching tv or reflecting on funny moments in life.
In the new year make time to laugh. You can reflect on a funny moment at any time during the day. It’s okay to loosen up and lighten up a bit. Laugh at yourself and be proud of who you are.
Gift 3: Living Your Life
THIS IS HUGE!!! I cannot explain enough how it is time to set your own rules. Friend, I release you from the same old, same old. You don’t need it! It’s okay to break the rules of tradition as long as you are not hurting anyone. You can create your own rules. Please, I beg of you, do something different if you are feeling stuck. Let go of things that are crippling you and holding you back. Have some fun because you need it in your life. For Christmas remember you can make your own traditions. You don’t have to do anything that isn’t on brand with you.
In the new year remember that you get to make the rules in your life. You have complete choice of the things that you do and while people have advice on how to do certain things, ultimately the choice is yours. If you want to go on a vacation for Christmas, go. You can quit your corporate job to sell cupcakes. Do your own thing if you want. You can get dirty and be unconventional and it will be okay. Life is simply too short to be reserved by rules that other people created for you for their own comfort.
Gift 4: Expand Your Learning
I love to learn new things! It is my way of staying on the up and up and a great way to communicate with others. It should be a golden rule that you continue to learn new things in your life. Whether it’s new recipes or a new method to your madness expand your learning. You’re not an old dog so you can certainly learn new tricks. For Christmas don’t be so kine for following the tradition. Learn new traditions and follow your own if that makes you happy.
In the new year make it a goal to learn new things. It can be self-care strategies or perfecting your goal making skills. You can also invest in a life enrichment coach like myself to help change things up in your life. Expanding your knowledge is about being open to something different so remember to be ready willing and able for something new in your life.
Okay friends, these are my Christmas gifts for you this year. There are so many changes coming up on this blog that you will see rolling out in the coming weeks. As always I am so happy to help you nourish your soul and your life. May your holiday be filled with cheer and brightness. What gifts will you be bringing into the new year?
Until next time…