Loving yourself is the foundation to having a glorious and happy life. But, it is a difficult concept to grasp especially if you do not know where to begin. In this post, I will share 5 tips that help you learn how to love yourself. Loving yourself not only will set you up for beautiful long lasting relationships but also nurtures your soul.
1. Practice Self Care:
Learn to meditate and get in touch with your inner self. Nothing is sexier than a person who is in touch with their inner self! If you’re not into meditation that’s okay, you could also, Deep Breathe, Spend some time alone, and/or exercise daily. Be sure to take care of your health! Self-care is about learning to care for yourself in the same way you would care for others, so do you and be you and enjoy every bit of it.
2. Address bad habits:
Remember that time you completely shut down after your last date commented on your “my pretty pony” obsession? Yeah, that’s definitely not a good look. There is nothing wrong with loving what you love (unless it’s harmful to yourself or others), own it, be proud of it, but don’t be offended when people don’t get your weird quirks. It’s the temper tantrums that have to go! You’re not four anymore, so learn to use your words and express yourself. While you’re at it, look at all those bad habits you’ve built up over the years, like negative self-talk, and poor boundaries. All of those habits need to be addressed. If it feels overwhelming, you can see a coach or a therapist. Or read a book or two. Whatever you do, get rid of the bad habits that you don’t need, they are only holding you back.
3. Drop off the baggage:
Life happens. People do bad things and people get hurt. You shouldn’t carry those bad things on your back for the rest of your life. At some point, you have to heal that wound, and what better time to do it while you’re preparing for your next relationship. Letting go of your baggage is not to say your forgetting about your past. Your past makes you who you are today, and that is wonderful. It’s letting go of the sentiments and feelings that continue to linger after the event that has occurred. Stop giving your past power over your life now. Learn to forgive and move on.
4. Be in the moment:
A lot of times we focus on future. We think “oh when I’m 20 pounds lighter I could…” Or “when I’m in a relationship, I’ll be better at…” Those times will come so don’t focus on the future so much, focus on right now. Accept who you are at this very moment. Tell yourself “I love the way I…” or “I’m really good at” Be all about your “ness.” Live your life for today, not for tomorrow, or yesterday.
5. Build a Strong Inner Circle:
Birds of a feather flock together. The people you keep around are a direct reflection of the relationships you have with others. So if you have friends that are unreliable, you may not be unreliable, but you definitely accept that behavior by holding onto those friendships. If you have friends that gossip about other people while you’re around, then you’re ultimately reinforcing that behavior by allowing those conversations to continue in your presence. You may have awesome friends, but you should recognize the role you play in relationships. The relationships you have with others now, are practice for the relationships you want to have later. You should have a supportive inner circle that loves you for you. In return, you give the love you want to receive.
So what do you think? These tips have been helpful in the past. Remember to make this journey fun. Take yourself out on a date and enjoy every minute of it. Treat yourself to the spa, you deserve it! It’s totally okay to love yourself. What are some other tips that have worked for you? Don’t forget to share and comment!
Until Next time…
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