I am one of those people who hates for her food to touch. I love to enjoy the taste of every delectable bite of yummy goodness on my plate and I don’t want the flavors to mix. I also like for things to be neat and in their place. So when things are out of place and messy, I can tolerate it, but eventually, things will fall apart. It starts with annoyance and then it quickly turns into anger. We all experience this feeling in life when everything begins to spill over. Today I am sharing with you how I deal with it and how you can too.
So, what does a life spill look like? It is those times when work-life comes tumbling into your personal life and takes over. Or when your personal life starts to affect other aspects of your time like family time. A life spill is when areas of your life that should be separated breach their barriers and come seeping in. At first, it may not seem like a huge deal until but eventually they become completely intertwined and start to take over.
When life spills over, it may feel like a tragedy. It is like a moment when you stop and look around and everything is wrong. I hate this feeling. It is the worst! But then again, the feeling completely unavoidable. You see we have this amazing range of emotion for a reason and it is incredibly difficult to shut off. As a matter of fact, you can’t shut off your emotions, only hide them, but they will always be there. So what do I do when life spills over? I assess it, tackle it, problem solve, and keep it moving.
Assess the Spills
Every time there is a problem in my life I question the purpose of my anger. When we have feelings of anger there are always underlying emotions to that anger. So when you are looking at a spill ask yourself why is this bothering you. Are you hurt by it? Are you sensing betrayal? Are you fearful? These emotions are the trigger to your anger and by answering these questions you start to get clues for the solution.
Tackle the Spills
Whenever you have an issue, it’s best to start cleaning it up and contain it. Complaining about it, or solving for the future will not work while you have a mess on your hands. You have to deal with what you have going on right now. This may be difficult and uncomfortable but if you do not deal with it, the spill will become bigger and could potentially spread.
Once the mess is clean then you can problem solve. Now is the time where you want to brainstorm ways you can avoid this spill again. Do you need to set ground rules or put up barriers? Perhaps you need to have a set schedule. Whatever it may be now is the time to come up with viable solutions to the problem.
Keep it Moving
This is the most important step but it can only come after you completed all the others. Do not dwell on the situation. Take the solutions you created and start using them, immediately. Do not let emotions linger on because it’s not worth holding frustration on a problem that is already solved. Move on from this snafu and participate in some self-care.
Life is going to be messy and that can be very frustrating. You, however, are a strong woman who can overcome life’s big spills. Don’t let messy moments in life create fear and doubt about who you are and what you are trying to accomplish. Share in the comments below how you get over life’s biggest messes?
Until next time…