Good Morning sweet people and Happy Soul Sunday. I have to say that every mother’s day I feel a little bit different. I am sure this is the same for many people. While this is a day to celebrate the amazing jobs many mothers do, I also wonder how painful this day must be for the women who are unable to stake this claim. It brings us to the question what is a mother? As well as, Who gets to call themselves mothers? As you know every Sunday, I reflect on the week past and share what to expect for the week coming. Join me for a Soul Sunday check-in.
So, mother’s day is actually one of the biggest hallmark celebrations of the calendar year. Meaning, many people buy chocolates, cards, flowers, and so much more to gift to their fabulous mothers. It is also a day that can bring angst to many women. A day where we celebrate women for their accomplishments in parenthood is amazing because a mother’s job is never done. From my own experiences, with my mom, I know a mother’s love is endless. I also know the pain of wonder for women who may never be able to own that term. For me, mother’s day is a reminder of my own fertility issues. And every year that I get older, I wonder more and more if I will ever get to celebrate mother’s day.
This check-in is not for solutions to fill the feelings I have, just simply an acknowledgment. It is for all the fur-mommies out there who pour love into their animals. It is for the women who face fertility issues that make achieving motherhood complicated. It’s for the woman, who have had children and lost them. I acknowledge you! Your love, your feelings, are very real and it’s okay not to be quite where you want to yet. It’s also okay to not want children or feel a motherly instinct yet. Most importantly, it’s okay to not fit into the box in which society has carved out for the term mother.
Don’t let this day send you into a quarter-life breakdown! No holiday should be a reminder of what you don’t have but what you already do, and the beauty of possibilities. Your love is still created with oxytocin regardless of species. In preparing for this day, I put together steps to center myself. The more I prep for things the better I feel. So this week, I found these steps to be most helpful:
Mother’s day Preparation steps:
Step One: Check your Feelings
It’s okay to acknowledge that you feel a little off. This is not a selfish thing at all. To take control of your life you have to be able to take control of your emotions. Acknowledge the feelings that you have and look into where they may be stemming from.
Step Two: Ground Yourself
Once you have acknowledged your emotions, it’s time to ground yourself. It’s okay to feel the way you feel, but you can’t let them sit. You have to do something to bring down the hype of those feelings. Whether it be meditation or journaling, you have to let those feeling go.
Step Three: Check in with a Support who Understands
You do not have to go through life alone, this is where friends come in. Find a support who gets the feelings you are feeling and share with them. Perhaps you have a fur momma’s brunch or just go out for a mani and pedi. Either way, find a strong support that can validate your feelings and help you keep moving.
You can prep for any day that you feel angst, not just mother’s day. You can do this for anniversaries of death, or even tough events. I find this process to be very helpful! Going forward into the week, I find myself wanting to be more organized. This is why I am using mother’s day for a day of peace. I have felt overwhelmed with emotion, and today I am going to quiet my mind.
This week on the blog, you will see the usual lineup, hopefully, including:
- Adulting with Shauna
- Subscribers newsletter
- April Goal reviews
I have a couple of other things that I would like to get done, but we shall see! I’m learning not to sweat the small stuff, and I am teaching you how to with a 21-day lifestyle revitalization course. Check it out while it’s still FREE. To all the fabulous women who are mothers, happy mother’s day. To the women who are silently suffering on this day, keep your head up,. Share the love in the comments below about your thoughts on mother’s day.
Until next time…
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