Responsibility is one of the hardest tasks to master in your 20’s and beyond. I myself have fumbled, bumbled, and tripped right over being accountable for things that I have done in my life. Let’s face it, it isn’t easy being responsible for the person who you are. There are many things that happen in our lives that shape you, but you are responsible for your actions and reactions. In this post, we look at why responsibility and accountability are key factors in personal growth.
Not too long ago, I began working with a coach who taught me a very important lesson. At the beginning of my time with her, I asked, “can you guarantee me results?” Her response blew me away as she said: “No, only you can guarantee your results.” What does that mean? It means that she is not responsible for my results or my growth. I am responsible for my own. How liberating and very true.
In childhood, we lean on our parents to teach us the lessons we need for adulthood. It’s true in saying some of us are not ready for the responsibility of owning our shit when our parents pass the torch. It is also true that we don’t all start at the same level. Being responsible and accountable for your personal growth empowers and helps you gain control in your life.
Why Be Responsible
Truthfully, no one likes the person who plays the blame game. Often those who are blaming others for their own shortcomings cannot bear the weight of their own struggles. Being responsible for you shows that you are strong enough to carry your own load. People see strength in those who can carry their own stuff.
Why is taking Responsibility Hard
When you take responsibility it makes you vulnerable. Many people are scared of vulnerability and some even see this as a way of getting hurt. But, really vulnerability can help you attract positive things in your life. When you are open and able to carry your own weight people recognize your strength. Those who have that kind of strength attract positive people in their lives.
Responsibility and Personal Growth
When you take control of your own journey, you can dictate the results. So what does that look like? Let’s use the example of a webinar. Let’s say you buy a webinar that will teach you how to boil water. All of the steps are there and all you need to do is watch and follow the instructions. The tools have been given to you, it is now up to you to use them. This is where responsibility and accountability come in. You have the choice to use what you have been given and practice these items. Unless the information is faulty, you are responsible for boiling the water. At this point you are in control of the results, it’s up to you to get them.
The key is to recognize your choices. We always have choices, we may not like them, but we have them. It’s okay when the choices we make do not amount to what we want. But we have to be accountable for our actions. How are you when it comes to taking responsibility? Share your thoughts and insights in the comments below.
until next time…