Good Morning Friends and Happy Soul Sunday! It’s the first Sunday of May, and I am handing out some tough love today. It seems after a long and hard winter, folks are letting loose all of their emotions. This is great, it’s always good to dust the carpet and shake off the cobwebs. However, it’s important to remember that we are responsible for ourselves, including our emotions, behaviors, and the consequences that follow. No one else can carry that burden but ourselves. Adulthood is learning how to take on these responsibilities without major catastrophe. This is the theme I am reflecting on today and using to plan for the coming week. Join me for Soul Sunday.
May is my favorite month of the year. I love to celebrate my birthday all month long, and this year is no different. So, I am learning that I cannot let others ruin my good time. If I do, I miss out on the things that are important to me. But, it seems like sometimes some people are just hellbent on trying to ruin my good time. Everyone has a group of people in their lives who are like this. They are the people who just can’t seem to find any happiness at all. Misery loves company, so, those same people try to drag you down with them. Don’t fall for this trap. This is where the tough love comes in:
When people try and bring their misery to you, it is your responsibility to give it right back. You are not responsible for anyone’s mess or inconsistencies. You cannot sulk after you have taken on that person’s mess because at that point it’s too late. It is your job to recognize when someone is handing you mess and then give it right back. As young adults, we face this all the time but as an #ADULTBOSS we shut this down real quick.
In tough love, we have to ask the hard questions. Be honest with yourself. Are you someone who takes on other’s responsibility, or one person who passes it off? Either one of these is unhealthy. Both will cost you the respect of others and loss in friendships. Healthy adulting is being able to look at life and face it head on. It is living each day one by one and facing the challenges as they come. Adulting is hard at times but, mishandling responsibility makes it harder. Make a promise to yourself to own your responsibilities and only yours.
I recognize that it is a big challenge to change habits and stay consistent in that. It’s easy to say when you are doing something wrong but it’s even harder to fix it. It’s because sometimes change involves constraint, but that what tough love is all about. Sometimes, people create unhappy lifestyles and become so deep in them, they do not know how to reverse it. But, you do not have to stay stuck, you can change at any time!
Moving forward, start to consider all of the things that you may pass off or take on. This week on the blog you can expect the following:
- New Monday Post
- Adulting with Shauna on Tuesday
- Book Review
- Grand Opening of the Shop
Taking control of your life and being a boss at adulting, is all about administering your own tough love. It is recognizing your faults and taking the responsibility to change them. How are you doing with that? Pledge your promise and show some love in the comments below.
until next time…